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Planning

There are many ways you can go about your planning but the obvious ways are:

1.     Doing stuff by yourself, and running the logistics

2.     Hiring a wedding planner and following through.

As a couple you have t o come to an agreement on certain key elements of your wedding ceremony. Your wedding ceremony whether the traditional or white wedding is a very important celebration of your life. A time when you are joined to another individual for life. And as such it must be taken very important.

Planning is a stage where you sit together and decide on what to do to make your wedding a reality. I will like to point out certain features that should take your attention because they may be overlooked.

These items are also important to discuss even when you are going with a wedding planner.

1. Fix your wedding date with the consent of both families and venue management.

2. Choose a venue

3. Carefully select your bridal train and grooms men.

4. Choose your colour theme.

Planning should take you into budgeting, which we will be discussing in the next article. Note that during planning you have to make notes in order to remember those point raised, you never can tell when they will come to spice up your great day.

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HELPFUL TIPS TO UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER’S PREGNANCY

OBSERVE AND LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER. Instead of trying to guess your partner’s feelings during the pregnancy, watch and listen to what she says. If she tells you she is anxious, do your best to reassure her. If she tells you she wants to rest, make sure she rests;

SHOW GOOD EXAMPLE. She won’t find it easy to stop to smoke or drink alcohol if you do these things in front of her. Help her to give up these habits by giving them up yourself.

EXPECT CHANGING MOODS. No matter how close and loving you and your partner are to each other, the chances are that she will be more irritable and emotionally sensitive than usual at this time. She may also become moody. Don’t take this personally.

AVOID BEING AUTHORITATIVE. It’s your partners’ body and you shouldn’t  emphatically tell her what to do and what to avoid in order looking after herself. Present any suggestions, for instance, about a healthy diet, as an idea rather than orders she must follow.

BE INTERESTED. The fact that you cannot understand what it is like having a baby grow inside you should not stop you from being interested in the physical changes that your partner goes through. She wants your attention.

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PLANNING TO PLAN

It is said that every good project began with a plan. I totally agree with this, but when it comes to the wedding project and other similar projects, waiting for the time you will sit down and plan may never come; taking you more into the delusion that you still have time. With our constantly changing economy and political situations, the procrastination may cost you so much.

You have to take an initial action of planning to plan. This is a conscious effort to make plans to plan. When you don’t make plans to plan- planning may never come and as such your wedding project may never come or worse still proceed without a plan which is far so expensive.

In simple terms I am saying: this is when the couple sits down and decides when they will come together or how they can plan their wedding together. Planning to plan requires the male partner or the female partner contributing their opinions on why and the importance of them to go into the wedding project with a plan.

This is not the wedding planning ( I will come to the wedding planning in the next episode) but the important step that takes you into the wedding planning. Planning is seriously tempted by procrastination- this is a very slimy temptation because both parties need keep to their words and commitment when they agree to plan to plan. This cannot be done by one partner alone but by both parties.

Whether you are going with a wedding planner or not, you still have to plan about it. This stage or process answers some basic questions you have and clears certain doubts.  Today get your partner to read this, get your friends to go through this, they actually need to plan to plan.

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THE GRAND ENTRANCE

A lot of times I find young people mixing up dating and courtship together. There is actually a distinction between the two, they can never be the same and they can never be overlooked when you are going to be a family.

There comes a time when attraction sets in either with the man or with the woman, after all that’s what we set out to do. To be attracted to the opposite sex, it is an undeniable force between opposites. Even when you are not conscious about it, yet you unconsciously act thus. It is not bad anyway; it is the current of life. A business man works to get customers attracted to his stock and offers, likewise it is with relationships.

When you get attracted to a lady, dating has not started. Dating starts when you start paying interest in the lady and the lady starts paying interest in you. Dating gives you the opportunity to know if you are compatible with each other, it provides a platform where you get more than the face value of your partner. In dating you look out for those qualities you desire in your partner if they are there.

If you cannot find those qualities, it is better you stop seeing this person at this point. Dating shouldn’t take you years to finish; it shouldn’t tie your life down and restrict movement. It is advised that you date one person at a time, because when you date several people at the same time, you will be prone to compromise, confusion and blinded to realities. Dating can also be called friendship.

Courtship begins when you discover that you are right for each other. This is the commitment level, where you have said yes to each other to become family. Courtship leads you directly into family. In courtship you are not trying out whether it will work or not, here you have decided to make it work, you are simply waiting for a convenient time to tie the nuptial knot.

Duration of courtship is at the couple’s disposition, they have to choose a very convenient time to make this work and start their journey into family. However courtship should not be confused for marriage, you are not yet married, therefore it is discouraged that you start living together. You lose your value in life as a husband or as a wife when you rush things and obviously lay a faulty foundation.

The grand entrance into family is worth celebrating especially for young people like me. It really doesn’t matter how much you are worth financially, don’t let that scare you, the decision o be family comes with the responsibility to provide and make more money. Upon realising this responsibility, you will see the will power behind it surging in like an inferno.

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Now that you have decided to marry, the wedding planning comes next; here are a few tips that will help you host an excellent wedding without spending you life’s fortune.

Spending so much for your wedding should be avoided by all means; yes I know someone will vary from my opinion  but it all depends on what is so much for you.

My point is simply from the philosophy of cutting your coat according to your size.

There are instances of the man who is an average income earner marrying into an exquisite family. This standpoint might not work for him because the wedding has to reflect the societal status of the bride. But care should be taken not to be hypocritical about this in displaying to your audience what you are not.

Back to my initial purpose for this composition. I am actually addressing the young couple who are trying to make something out of life with the opportunities they are currently exploring.

I am yet to consider and ponder, if any, the wisdom in spending a fortune for your matrimonial funfair when you have not had a picture and plan for the home you are about building from now till let’s say the next five years.

Building a successful home and family is not a function of a society wedding but solely a function of careful, honest and realistic planning by both parties.

The couple must sit down and declare their assets to each other, for this is the foundation upon which they must build. Each party must deal a card at the table, after all this is likened to a gamble-you never know what’s on the other end.

Enough of my mental conundrum; what are the steps to hosting excellent wedding ceremony?

   Plan to plan

   Writing down your plans

   Budgeting

   Announcement

   Seek for help

   Form a committee of friends

   Nip the bud on each logistics

Yes this is the subject of my essay, and you don’t expect me to finish it in one day, do you? Of course not, however as the series evolve we will continue and expand on each item on the list…stay tuned and don’t forget to leave a comment behind.

…to be continued!

THE AMAZING POWER OF PHYSICAL TOUCH

Physical contact goes a long way in deepening the bond between partners in a relationship whether married or about to marry. It carries a reassurance that says: I am here; you don’t need to go too far to get me. Telephone conversations will not give you this; this is why it is recommended that in long distance relationships, there must be sacrifice on both partners to make sure from time to time physical contact is established.

Physical contacts for those who are not married includes, holding hands while taking a stroll or talking,  a momentary body hug when you meet, and  leaning on his shoulder in the back seat of the car. Care should be taken for those who are not married not to allow the contact to linger so much to avoid leading you into temptation of sexual arrousement.

Physical contact for the married include all those for the unmarried and also the following, a light kiss on the forehead, leaning on his shoulder throughout the movie in the movies, lingering body hug, a light caressing at the back while you hug. Never underestimate the power of a physical touch in reaching out to your partner when hurt.

Next time you are having an argument with your partner or guy, try this little move: reach out, grasp his hand, and hold it for the rest of the discussion. Making a physical connection can lighten the tension in a disagreement and promote closeness. It reminds you both that you are still a couple in love. Physical touch is known to lower blood pressure, and it sends a message:  “We’re in this together, and we’ll keep working until we find a solution we can

both embrace.”

FOODS AND BEVERAGES TO AVOID DURING PREGNANCY

Caffeine

Pregnancy can leave you feeling extra tired and fatigued. Unfortunately caffeine can cross the placenta, so it’s best to avoid or limit the amount of caffeine you drink. For pregnant women, caffeine should be limited to less than 200mg per day. One cup of coffee contains about 95mg of caffeine, while one cup of tea contains about 47mg.
Where is Caffeine Found?
Though most of us associate caffeine with tea and coffee, it is also found in a number of other foods and beverages, including:
colas
hot chocolate
chocolate
various nuts
Caffeine is also found in certain medications, particularly those for migraine headaches, and in some dietary supplements.
What are the Effects of Caffeine?
If you notice yourself feeling jittery after you have has a lot of coffee or tea, there's a good reason for it. Caffeine can cause a number of physical side effects, including:
increased heart rate
increased blood pressure
increased sweat production

 

Alcohol

Alcohol can be damaging to your baby’s tiny developing organs including the brain, and can lead to a whole host of disorders called Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders. It’s better to be safe than sorry, so in this case eliminate all alcohol use while pregnant.

For decades, researchers have known that heavy drinking during pregnancy can cause birth defects. But the potential effects of small amounts of alcohol on a developing are not well understood.