THE GRAND ENTRANCE

A lot of times I find young people mixing up dating and courtship together. There is actually a distinction between the two, they can never be the same and they can never be overlooked when you are going to be a family.

There comes a time when attraction sets in either with the man or with the woman, after all that’s what we set out to do. To be attracted to the opposite sex, it is an undeniable force between opposites. Even when you are not conscious about it, yet you unconsciously act thus. It is not bad anyway; it is the current of life. A business man works to get customers attracted to his stock and offers, likewise it is with relationships.

When you get attracted to a lady, dating has not started. Dating starts when you start paying interest in the lady and the lady starts paying interest in you. Dating gives you the opportunity to know if you are compatible with each other, it provides a platform where you get more than the face value of your partner. In dating you look out for those qualities you desire in your partner if they are there.

If you cannot find those qualities, it is better you stop seeing this person at this point. Dating shouldn’t take you years to finish; it shouldn’t tie your life down and restrict movement. It is advised that you date one person at a time, because when you date several people at the same time, you will be prone to compromise, confusion and blinded to realities. Dating can also be called friendship.

Courtship begins when you discover that you are right for each other. This is the commitment level, where you have said yes to each other to become family. Courtship leads you directly into family. In courtship you are not trying out whether it will work or not, here you have decided to make it work, you are simply waiting for a convenient time to tie the nuptial knot.

Duration of courtship is at the couple’s disposition, they have to choose a very convenient time to make this work and start their journey into family. However courtship should not be confused for marriage, you are not yet married, therefore it is discouraged that you start living together. You lose your value in life as a husband or as a wife when you rush things and obviously lay a faulty foundation.

The grand entrance into family is worth celebrating especially for young people like me. It really doesn’t matter how much you are worth financially, don’t let that scare you, the decision o be family comes with the responsibility to provide and make more money. Upon realising this responsibility, you will see the will power behind it surging in like an inferno.

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